CHARLOTTE, N.C. — This year’s dating trends focus on taking things slow and getting to know someone before getting physical. And although we consider ourselves relationship experts, we decided to tap a real expert in the field. Our trusted expert, Jennifer Hurvitz, is back to share her insights on the latest dating trends for Fall 2024 and beyond. As we approach the Fall there are some trends that we are seeing when it comes to dating” says Hurvitz. She adds “this is about dipping your toe in, to see the temperature of the dating pool.” Here are some trends:
1) Slow Dating:
Rather than swiping and talking to every person you match with, slow dating values quality over quantity. It’s how I coach and how my clients date to make real connections over time. It's dating with intention. Slow dating, a concept that prioritizes vulnerability, is about truly getting to know the other person. It aims to lay a solid foundation for lasting relationships by nurturing authentic understanding and compatibility. Slow your roll and get to know your partner before committing! You’re getting to know someone by investing time in conversations that build a foundation of compatibility and genuine experience.
2) Micro-Flirting:
This innovative trend, micro-flirting, is a powerful tool that allows you to gauge mutual attraction without fear of rejection. It’s like dropping hints of interest and seeing if they’re reciprocated. In other words, it’s like dropping breadcrumbs instead of giving the whole loaf of bread! This approach empowers you to express your interest without fearing being turned down. Subtle forms of flirting or acting interested. It’s about testing the waters before jumping in!
Here are a few examples:
-Noticing small details that have changed (like a new haircut or different perfume).
– Observing subtle shifts in body language when the other person is around.
– Becoming slightly defensive or protective of the other person and not wanting to share or date others.
Ask yourself some questions like “Are they into you or just being nice? Or do you have an honest connection, or are they only being polite? The answer can help you make a wise decision.
3) Contra-Dating:
Simply dating outside of your type. Contra-dating involves broadening your horizons by going for someone you wouldn’t typically choose,
It gives new meaning to being open-minded and willing to learn the importance of core values that matter more than physical attributes—it may be difficult for some, but I highly recommend it!
Having a specific type can limit your choices and make your dating pool smaller. It’s important to date “outside the box.” New couples and those dating post-divorce or midlife seem more comfortable with Contra-dating than younger daters.
4) Open-hearted masculinity: Embracing diverse emotions, traits, and behaviors to promote equality among genders.
5) Rejecting ghosting: So long ghosting. We have all grown up and realized it’s the easy way out and unkind.
6) Prioritizing mental health: Fostering vulnerability to build meaningful connections.
These are just a few things happening in the world of dating. For more information visit Jenniferhurvitz.com or follow Jennifer on Instagram @DoingrelationshipsRight.